Trade Your New Year’s Resolutions for Intentions and Change Your Life


It’s 2020! A new year means so many things to so many people. The first thing most people think of with the new year is the age old tradition of New Year’s Resolutions. We all want to start the new year with good intentions, hefty goals, and to make a change in some aspect of our lives. It is such a refreshing time for us all to reflect and plan ahead. I think that is why I have always loved New Year’s and the traditions that surround it.

In the past, like most people, I too have set up goals I wanted to achieve in the New Year. This year, I’m trying something different. I am focusing on intentions. I realized that thinking about my intentions actually helps me get closer to my goals.

By understanding what I need to do in order to reach my desired outcome, I can diligently work towards my yearly goals. I am thinking beyond the end result and focusing on what I need to accomplish leading up to that end goal to make it a reality.

THE LABRYINTH WALK

My cousin Adelina is a spiritual life coach with Surrendered Healing. She was born on New Year’s and has created an alternate birthday party for herself. Adelina created a labyrinth and invited friends and family to walk through it to set their intentions.

When we arrived at the park that evening, I saw the beautiful and serene labyrinth that she set up. We were given instructions on how to walk through, grounded, and guided through a meditation. We took deep breaths and thought about our intentions for 2020 and what we wanted to let go of from 2019. Once we were done with the meditation, we each walked through the labyrinth, thinking of our intentions in the present tense. I thought of my intention and repeated it to myself over and over. I take action. I take action. I take action.

A LETTER TO MYSELF

I didn’t expect a birthday party to be so focused on the attendees but the experience was amazing. On New Year’s Eve, Adelina followed up with a text and asked that I write a letter to myself about what my intentions were for the year ahead. She would send the letter back to me during the year to remind myself what I had written down. While I had not done an exercise like this before, I really enjoyed it! I couldn’t think of a better way to start the new year and to celebrate her birthday.

After my reflections on 2019, I realized that in order to achieve what I wanted, I couldn’t search for the answer somewhere else. It wasn’t because I needed to continue to learn more before I could move on to the next step.

Don’t get me wrong, I am ALWAYS learning and I love to continue to learn new things and have new experiences. However, what I’m trying to get at is that the answer is not always from somewhere else, it often comes from within.

Over the past decade, I have learned so much from experts in different fields as well as from myself. Now it’s time to implement what I’ve learned. I realized that what really held me back is actually the overthinking and procrastination. I am by no means a lazy person so I do not procrastinate out of laziness. I procrastinate because I overthink things.

MY INTENTIONS – BUSINESS AND PERSONAL

My intention for 2020 is to do what I know I should do. Doesn’t it just sound so….SIMPLE!? I will be implementing this in two facets of my life, business and personal life. With my business, I have so much to share and am very passionate about what I do. I love connecting with other moms and coming together to help each other achieve the goals we never thought possible. My problem with this is overthinking, “What if I don’t write well?, What if they don’t care? What if I offend someone?, What if I’m not supposed to write about this”. In 2020, I intend to move on from this thinking and do exactly what it is I know I should do.

For my personal life, my intention is self-care and health. I know I should do more and make it a priority but I always neglect it. I think most other moms can agree that self-care can go out the window when life gets busy with the kids, family and work. In 2020, I intend to make a plan for self-care and stick with it no matter how busy I get, because I know it is what I should do and need to do in order to take care of others.

My focus this year in 2020 is to take ACTION. As simple as it sounds, I’m just going to have pig-headed determination to do what I know I should and want to do and let go over overthinking and procrastination.

So, if you’d like to do something similar, you can do this on your own without any special setup.

  1. SET INTENTIONS – Start by closing your eyes and think about what you want to focus on this year. Think about what you want to let go and what you want to invite in.
  2. LETTER – Write a letter to yourself after thinking about your intentions. How do you want to feel? How will you be in 2020. What will it look like for you to fully embrace your intention? What will you do more of or less of this year?
  3. REMINDER – You can put a reminder in your calendar to open it up and check if you have been practicing your intentions. This can be any specified time frame, quarterly, biannually, you choose. This will set your year in motion with the thoughts necessary to reach your overarching goals. Or you may do this with a friend and have her send it to you sometime throughout the year.
  4. DAILY HABIT – Begin each day with reminding yourself of your intentions.

INTENTIONS OVER GOALS

The reason we should focus on intentions more than goals is because intentions are referring to the present. They are 100% in your control and are independent of a goal or outcome. Furthermore, intentions are about the relationship with yourself and not others.

It also gets you out of your head because it stops you from thinking about perceived limitations. Instead of getting intimated over a hefty goal, you’re just focusing on what your actions are going to be that you are in control of now.

With that being said, it does NOT mean that goals are not important and helpful! I set personal and business goals in addition to my intentions. I think about my goals but focus on my intentions daily. I know that by doing so, I will actually get closer to my goals.

So I challenge you. I challenge you to set your intentions for a successful year, it is NOT too late.

What are your intentions for 2020? Reach out and let me know. Let’s do this together and make 2020 the best year ever!

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